Marriage and Family FHS 2400
Marriage and Family/ Financial Literacy
Chrissy McKell
Adoption
Dear Friend,
I know you have been considering adoption with your baby you just had. Having a child while you are so young can be very hard to deal with because you are just graduating college and do not know how you would be able to make time for your child while going to school, having a job, and such. Personally, I feel abortion is the worst option you have. It is such an ugly and terrible thing that I will never understand. But adoption is different because you are giving your child a chance at life just with a different family that will be able to take better care of the child than you can. Many people think that parents who put their children up for adoption are just trying to get rid of them, because they do not love them. This is completely not true. Most of the parents who are putting their children in the adoption program are only doing so because they love their children. To me, adoption starts miracles. I had the opportunity to speak with someone who was adopted. She told me her mom was adopted as well. Imagine if there were no adoption program, and the wonderful families that would not get a chance to be together. I have good friends who were adopted and just think what I would be missing out on if they were not in my life because they did not have adoption as an option. It is an interesting thing, because some children who have been adopted do not even look like they have been adopted, in other words, they fit in completely with their new family and look exactly like their adopted parents which is a neat thing and makes you think that it was meant to be like that. Good luck with the decision with your child, I recommend adoption.
- Chrissy McKell
Marriage and Family/ Financial Literacy
Chrissy McKell
Good Parents
What makes a good parent? A good parent has much love and compassion for their child. They are strict because they care for their child and want the best for them. A bad parent would be one who does not really care what their kids do, letting them do whatever they want to do all the time, or in even worse terms, abuses them in any way. I don’t not think that my definitions of what makes up a good and bad parent would be stretched by the child’s age. I feel that no matter how old the child, their parents should always have so much love for them, and even be strict because they care for their child, and want the best for them all the time. I feel that some parenting styles and techniques should be changed as the child grows up, but some should also stay the same. For instance, I do not believe that a teenager should still be spanked or that they should have their parents pick out their clothes; little things like that. However, I do believe so rules should stay the same like cleaning your room, or doing your homework. In my household, I would say the general parenting that my parents use is and has always been authoritarian. My parents have always laid down the rules very clearly, and have been strict with homework and having us get better at our hobbies and talents by practicing at them. It can definitely get annoying sometimes, when it seems that some of my friends have parents who are rather authoritative, but when I overlook it as a whole, I am so glad that my parents are the way they are; I want to raise my children the same way.
